I’m not sure where this post is going or where it’s gone. I was inspired to write after reading a recent and thought-provoking comment — just before running off to my work Christmas party.
Which I am going to… NOW. So if I’ve made grand assumptions (probably) or let my thoughts run away (probably) it’s because I’m dying to get my shirley temple on.
But this topic warrants further thought and discussion.
Cheers.
The first time I had to defend what it meant to be a “Traditional” Muslim, it was because my second-cousin-by-marriage was on a television debate with other faith leaders — and consistently referred to himself as a “Traditional” Muslim.
I thought traditional Muslims had long beards, wore hijab, expected women in the home, spoke with an accent, followed that horrific shari’a law, and lived over there.
Certainly, my clean-cut cousin in his cool 3-piece suit, with a university degree and impressive law firm occupation, a second generation Canadian with religious ideals saying that women can work and contribute to society under Islamic law — didn’t necessarily fit some people’s idea of what it means to be a “Traditional” Muslim. But that’s how he identifies himself.
I explained that I also considered myself to be a “Traditional” Muslim but much preferred seeing myself as “just a Muslim.”
Oh, but you’re different. You’re the exception.
Uh. No, I’m not.
This blog, my amazing readers, the brilliant people I interact with on Twitter, people I meet at conferences, my close friends, my acquaintances, fantastic people who are also voicing their opinions online and in books the world over say something quite different.
We may have different economic circumstances, partner preferences, geographical locations, educations, access to opportunities, genders… but we’re all exceptional.
I mentioned sarcastically in a recent post that when I first converted I believed (imagined) that Muslims were a homogeneous, religious and pious entity. That couldn’t be further from the truth and despite popular categories, it’s probably impossible to pigeon-hole Muslims as anything other than human. Individuals.
Or the more radical: woman, man, journalist, American, Egyptian, scientist, therapist, garbage collector teacher, PERSON.
(unless you’re the sort to say that “Muslim” should always come first or uphold the belief that anything that submits to the will of God is small “m” muslim: trees, grass, babies, rocks, aliens, dust mites, etc)
I try hard not to use labels. I don’t call myself a Moderate, a Progressive, a Sufi, or Salafi — even if I share certain ideas with these “groups.” Maybe I’m able to be “just a Muslim” because I belong to a (largely) majority Muslim community. So maybe it’s privilege that allows me to be “just a Muslim.”
But I’m also a feminist.
And when I call myself a Muslim feminist, I’m limited because it brings certain stereotypes to mind that do not represent me at all, and overshadow who I really am and what I believe.
The last time I told someone I was a Muslim feminist, it came with a slew of assumptions:
There is no real proof that women led prayer. Women leading prayer in a mixed congregation takes away from the real problems affecting the ummah. Why do women want to work outside of the home? There are set, natural duties for both genders. God gave only a few men Prophesy, but He gave all women the ability to create life.
Feminism has so much baggage. You can’t mention it to someone without bra or hijab burning sneaking into the conversation. Why would me being a feminist mean that I’m ONLY concerned with women leading prayer or women working outside the home?
Because feminism is tainted and evil and Western. It teaches young muslimahs to revolt against the convenient patriarchy that’s worked for centuries. It’ll turn them into promiscuous harlots — because, you know, feminists are sexual, free beings, and we wouldn’t want that influencing our women from accepting the status quo. Too bad there are asexual feminsits. Male feminsits. *GASP* virgin feminists.
Or even, *ta-dah* Islamic Feminism!
Being a Muslim feminist means that I’m concerned with ensuring equal rights, community service, and social justice in religious practice (implementation, interpretation, and creating safe spaces). That goes for everyone: non-Muslims, people who don’t practice, children, women, men, the LGTBQI community, animals, married couples, unmarried couples, students, singletons, people with disabilities, the disenfranchised or people with different belief systems as long as those belief systems aren’t hurting themselves, others or make people feel oppressed.
Just because I’m a feminist, it doesn’t mean I’m ONLY concerned with women’s issues.
And just because I’m a Muslim doesn’t mean that I can’t be flexible in what that really means.
December 7, 2011 at 7:11 pm
I have to say I’m a bit flattered you turned this into a whole post! 🙂
Get your point, though.
You can wear multiple hats.
You are not just identity A or identity B (or C or D or whatever).
The stuff that you identify with overlaps in your persona, and creates new colors and textures that might seem odd to those used to seeing in monochrome but really come quite naturally to you.
You are your own color and if it is impossible to label that color, if the name for it does not exist, well it’s not your problem. You are unapologetic about it.
People make assumptions about your thoughts and views at their own peril. At the cost of never really getting to know the living, breathing mish-mash of the lively shades you are composed of. At the cost of never getting to know a truly remarkable person.
Do have a great time at the party!
December 7, 2011 at 8:30 pm
Your comment came at an appropriate time. Yesterday I realised some people were holding me up as a unique token Muslim and the day before I recalled that conversation about defining what a traditional Muslim means.
Overwhelmingly in the media, traditional Muslim is pictured as hijab wearing, uncultured and oppressed. While mavericks are hijabless and fighting against the patriarchy. There are plenty of so-called “traditional” Muslims doing that and challenging the status quo.
A hijab doesn’t have to define a Muslim woman. And neither should a short haircut and feminist theory.
I wanted to develop this into a larger post (and maybe I will) – deconstructing my own feminism and how conversion plays into how my authority within the community. Something I alluded to (I think) in my actual reply to your comment.
So thanks for getting the ball rolling!
December 8, 2011 at 12:51 am
Dr Tariq Suwaidan (at RIS) once said that Islam is a broad river. A river has boundaries beyond which anything is not in the river (i.e. outside of Islam) but within those boundaries there is a lot of variety. A lot of diverse opinions and all are correct. This is Islam and this is Islam and this is Islam.
I subscribe to that view point. I think there are some beliefs you cannot have if you want to consider yourself Muslim (such as saying wine is now halal) but else where there is a lot of scope for diversity of views. And they are all Traditional Muslims, whether you are the capitalist Abu Bakr (he was a businessman – the 1%!) or the socialist Abu Dharr Ghifari or the pragmatist Ali.
As for stereotyping, would you believe my wife once commented to me that my Lego women should really wear hijab (she was joking)!
December 8, 2011 at 7:44 am
When I was studying the formative years of Islamic Law it was amazing to go through the anthropological studies showing the vast variety of practice and belief. A Maliki qadi might learn fiqh from a Zahiri, have anti-caliph political leanings, and take bay’ah with a pir. Wael Hallaq has chapters on this phenomena. It was part of the social culture to wear different hats and have varring “allegiances” to belief (especially in Muslim Spain).
It wasn’t a big deal.
You’re hijabi Lego ladies always either look made-up for a night out (awesome) or pissed off (also awesome) 🙂
(and Dr Suwaidan is a smart cookie mashallah)
December 8, 2011 at 1:43 am
WT, you express yourself so well. You are all kinds of awesomeness 🙂
December 8, 2011 at 9:54 am
I’m equally frustrated with the limits set on Muslim feminists in what we talk about — its almost like the ‘agenda’ has been pre-set for us.
Great post, love your nibble-like thoughts. I read this en route home. Your little ‘ta-dah’ made me laugh.
December 8, 2011 at 12:05 pm
It IS very frustrating from within and without. Rarely are female scholars called upon to speak on their expertise (be it conflict resolution or politics). But hold a talk on modesty in Islam or the rights of women in Islam and look out!
The successful women I know who are well known for their (non hijab, non women’s rights) expertise have had to work and struggle for YEARS. And in one or two cases, were recognised first by the non-Muslim community before the Muslim community even took notice.
This poor attitude toward educated women, as well as Muslim/Islamic feminist scholars promotes a serious gap in knowledge for the community. I’m still burning that there are only two women scheduled for the Toronto RIS conference (and they’ll most likely be scheduled in the least popular slots).
So glad I made you laugh! Seriously, I’m very honoured to learn you read my post.